Life With Tia Wolfe
Welcome to Life With Tia Wolfe, where I take you along my journey through life. Season 1 was about mental health through my personal life. Season 2 was about how our relationships affect our mental health. Season 3 is more focused on spiritual aspects of life and retelling my entire life story.
Life With Tia Wolfe
S2: E10 Exploring Astrology and Self-Discovery: The Journey to Understanding Relationships and Personal Growth
Have you ever wondered how your astrological sign could influence your relationships and personal growth? I'm your host, Tia Wolfe, and together we'll explore the fascinating world of astrology, human design, and the power of resting. This transformative journey began with a year of self-reflection and prioritizing rest. This period led me through a metamorphosis in my career, shifting from solely focusing on mental health to incorporating relationships and the interconnectedness between them.
In this introspective journey, utilizing the insightful world of astrology, it has shaped my understanding of self and relationships. You'll learn how I've embraced this ancient wisdom into my personal brand and how it has helped me navigate the murky waters of burnout. I also discuss its impact on our interactions with others and how it's emphasized my need for boundaries. I'll share how astrology and self-love intertwined to lead me towards self-discovery.
Yet, the journey hasn't always been smooth. I've grappled with speaking up and faced the challenges of past wounds. Listen as I share the healing power of strong, feminine women who've supported me along the way. We'll delve into the lessons I've learned, understanding energy, trusting my intuition, and the role of vulnerability in relationships. Join me as I remind you of the significance of understanding yourself, setting boundaries, and taking time to rest as part of living a fulfilling life.
Hey guys, welcome back to another episode of Life with Tia Wolfe. I have been doing stuff here and there, but really I've just been focused on my health, focused on just resting. This has been a paramount year for me in terms of reflecting and just analyzing where I really want to go with my life. As you guys already know, I have completely rebranded myself, so I'm no longer in the mental health space, I am focused on relationships now, but I will still talk about mental health here and there, because really, when you think about mental health and how it affects relationships, it goes hand in hand because now more than ever, the relationships that we have, it depends on our mental health, how healthy the relationship is. So I'm actually going to share today and just to elaborate more. I've already put a post up on Instagram about the things that I have accomplished as well as the things that I've just looked back on this year that made a huge difference in my life. So today I am going to go more in depth into what I've learned. So the first thing is that rest has been so important to me.
Tia Wolfe:I've dived into human design before and, for those who don't know, it's kind of like astrology, but more on a scientific base of how your DNA is and just on a cell level, how you are meant to operate. I'm a projector there's only about 20% of projectors in the world and we are here to guide people. Each one of us have our own gifts and we need to be recognized, to be invited for our gifts. Otherwise we just experience bitterness. Because we're sharing information, we're trying to help others, but we aren't being recognized for what we know. So it's kind of like okay, even if we want to help you, people don't value what we have to say. People just listen to what we say and then just kind of ignore it. So it's never the best way of how we operate because we don't essentially have our own energy force.
Tia Wolfe:But I'm just summarizing here as to why this year I've just decided to rest. I've listened to my body and as much as I truly, truly, truly wanted to work because my entire life I've always believed in just going after what I want I just had to slow down. I had to just allow myself to rest and listen to my body and just do the things. That makes me happy, that allows me to have fun, because truly, I've never really had that in my life I was always going after my next goal. I was always trying to accomplish things. I was always trying to just do things just to get myself out of the situation I'm in because, if you guys already know or not, I haven't had the easiest upbringing. So that's why this year it's been a huge challenge just to do the things that I don't actually know how to really do.
Tia Wolfe:I know for a lot of people it's like oh, what do you mean? How do you not know how to rest? Which just doesn't make sense. But for me I've always been on the go. I'm a complete nerd, so I'm always learning new things. I'm always reading up on stuff, researching stuff.
Tia Wolfe:So when people ask me, what do I do for fun, it sounds kind of lame to tell people what I like to do for fun because I don't like to sit on the couch and watch TV. I don't really watch TV at all, to be honest. I don't go out, I don't party and, as I've gone odor, I've just kind of become more of a introvert. I prefer to be at home. I have two dogs now so I spend a lot of time with them and if it's not with them, I'm either working, resting or just reading up on stuff and learning things that I take an interest in. On top of that, I love music, so I have music going on 24 seven so I'm never bored. There's always something in the background. So truly, there's already so much going on that for me I just feel like I don't have the time. I know for a lot of people they say, if it's really important, you'll make time, and that's absolutely right. I'm choosing not to make time to rest and obviously it hasn't benefited me as I've gone odor. So this year has really, really been challenging and testing me in learning to slow down.
Tia Wolfe:I've truly been in my masculine energy for the majority of my life. I didn't really understand how feminine energy could be beneficial. But this isn't to knock anybody. I just had a really bad relationship with my mother and, if you already know, your mother and father were the first role models for what a woman and a man should be, and I know nowadays there's a lot more than just a woman and man. So we're not going to get there today, but I just want to let you guys know that I didn't have a healthy relationship with understanding what a true woman should be like and what the feminine energy should be like.
Tia Wolfe:So because of that, I saw how the way my mother lived just wasn't what I was trying to accomplish and if I followed her path, I was just going to end up being the same way she is, and I didn't want to be that way. So I saw it as a bad thing of what she was doing, which is just kind of like doing nothing and always asking people for help, and she wasn't able to do anything on her own. I became this person where I was capable of doing more than enough for myself, like everything I know how to do. I've self taught myself because nobody was ever really there for me. And luckily we have the internet now so I can always YouTube something I don't know or I can Google something I don't know, and again, I love to learn. So that's never been an issue for me and that's just kind of how I've always lived.
Tia Wolfe:So the way I live now, especially this year resting, sleeping a lot, just waking up whenever I want which again is like a huge trigger for a lot of people because I've had so many people tell me to like fix my sleep schedule, but honestly, it's what works for me. I don't have the normal nine to five job and I don't need to have a schedule that is set, because for me, I work for myself. So the blessing of that is I can just do the things that I want to do whenever I want to do. So of course, that means I'm up at like three, four in the morning, working while a majority of the world is sleeping, at least on the Western atmosphere. But you know it's fine, like I'm working on the hours people are sleeping and people are working during the hours that I am sleeping, so it's fine.
Tia Wolfe:So rest it's amazing how rest has been so important to me, because it's allowed me to be really creative. It's when I'm not doing stuff, I'm just sleeping or in bed a lot of ideas come through to me. So that was just a little bit about how I've been needing to rest. It allows me just to really be in flow and honestly, it takes a lot off my shoulders, feeling like I have to perform all the time. I have to always be on the go and getting things done. I've truly done a lot in my life to get to where I am today.
Tia Wolfe:So when I really think about it, there's nothing wrong with me resting and honestly, there should be no excuse as to why you shouldn't rest if your body is telling you to. I've always guilt-tripped myself feeling like, oh, if I'm resting, if I'm not doing anything, then I'm lazy. But that really comes from childhood wounds as well, because my mother would always make me feel bad for not doing anything, despite the fact that she doesn't do anything. But the thing is she's always on the move. She's always doing something. She's not always valuable stuff that she's doing or efficient stuff that she's doing. So when I find ways to be more efficient and I'm getting things done, I should be allowed to rest right, but I just wasn't able to. So that is a wounding from my past that I've recognized this year. And again, your body remembers a lot of things, even if your mental state is already willing to move on and let go. You also have a lot of people have to check in with your body to see where your body is at. So just make sure for those who are always on the go rest, because when you don't, your body is going to deteriorate at such a fast rate and it's really not beneficial for you to not rest anyways. So just letting you guys know In that note I also want to mention that the way I've worked all of my life, it's not working for me anymore.
Tia Wolfe:I've noticed in the past two years regardless of whether I'm pushing myself to work really hard and produce things or not, it kind of doesn't matter Like you would think that when you do more right there's more output. But that hasn't been the case for me in the past two years and I'm starting to recognize, at least for my life, that I just have to listen to my intuition and to my body. So when it's telling me it's time to work, it's time to create, then that's the time that I should do it and I shouldn't pressure myself to have a schedule where I'm going to just put out stuff, content, whatever you call it. I just still have consistency because my energy isn't built for that. If we do ever get into human design I'm not sure if I want to talk about it, but I do incorporate it in my readings and, for those who don't know, I actually released my calendar. So now my books are open for natal chart readings and synestry readings.
Tia Wolfe:So many of you guys ask what a synestry chart is. It's essentially a relationship chart. So we all have birth charts that are decided at the time of birth, and other people have that too. So what does that mean? When we have a synestry chart, what I do is and just in general, this is what a synestry chart is is that you put two charts together and see how they affect each other, how things play out, the pros, the cons of it all. So if you want to know how you and your partner or anybody you have a relationship to, if you want to know and understand how the dynamics of a relationship is, this doesn't have to be romantic. I've done this with my friends. I even do this with my business. It's just a relation to something else. So it is really beneficial. And if you don't want to do that and you want to get a reading for yourself, absolutely that is more than recommended.
Tia Wolfe:I know that I'm sidetracking here, but astrology has completely changed my life and I guess I'm coming out on YouTube and my podcast about this because this is part of my revamp of my brand is that I am incorporating my spiritual side by using astrology and human design to really help others in their relationships, and part of it isn't just relationships, it's the relationship with yourself, because when you don't have a healthy relationship with yourself, they're not going to really draw in the right people that you hope to have. That will build a healthy relationship with you. So anyways, going back to the nato chart readings, I discovered astrology eight years ago when I was at a really, really low point in my life, and I know I'm sidetracking now, but I'm just going to give you a brief overview. It's changed my life because it reminded me of who I am at the core and also to understand what was happening during the time that I was going through stuff. Because, whether you acknowledge it or not, we are all part of the universe, so the planets do affect us. I mean, the sun affects us, right, and the moon affects us. So who's to say that other planets, even though it's far out in the universe, doesn't affect us? But anyways, whether you believe it or not, that's on you. I'm not here to convince anybody to believe in astrology or not. I've just found that it's really been helpful for me. It's been life changing. It helps me to understand what's going on, especially when things can get really dark. It gives me some hope because I know that it's a transit and it's going to end eventually and there are lessons during this transit that I have to learn, and obviously the only way you learn is when you're going through hard things and there's pressure on you. But again, I'm here for it. If you guys are interested in a reading, definitely check it out on my website at LifeWithTiaWolfcom.
Tia Wolfe:So anyways, getting back on schedule, what I was talking about in terms of work is that Resting and the amount of work I do go hand in hand. I don't know if this is the thing for me going forward or it's just a moment in time, but I realize that I don't have to continue pushing out content. It doesn't make sense for me energetically, because I'm burning out and I'm completely exhausted half the time when I do this kind of stuff, and that's kind of why I went on break this year. I wasn't really happy anymore and I thought I didn't love what I do, and so, like, what's the point? Why would you have a business that you're just doing just to do and it's not making you happy? Again, it's not for everyone. Some people have businesses just to make money. Other people have businesses because they don't want to work for anybody. You know there's a whole list of reasons why people have businesses, but for me.
Tia Wolfe:I opened a business because not only do I don't want to work for anybody else, but I wanted to do things that make me happy and allow me to have an impact on other people. So, like I said, I realized that in my own energetic field and maybe part of it is that I'm still recovering from the burnout from years ago I was working corporate for like seven years and it was always fast pace, so it definitely burned me out and I wasn't really happy doing what I was doing. So maybe my body is still recovering I'm not really sure. But as of right now, I'm just doing the best I can to put out content when I have high energy and I definitely don't want to burn energy where it's not necessary so that I can really focus on my clients.
Tia Wolfe:When it comes to the readings because there is a lot of energy that is utilized in my readings I channel a lot, I speak intuitively, so that is a lot of energetic exchange, and when I'm tapping into somebody else's energy I'm pulling in the good and bad stuff that I don't know what I would be exposed to. So it is a lot, but I enjoy it and I do notice that it does shift people's mindsets. It does help for them to really see themselves and understand what they need to do to move forward, because a lot of times when you do readings, it's usually because you're at a place in your life where you're stuck and you really want to understand where you're trying to go or you're interested in learning more about yourself, because it really kind of it really helps with self development. I'm not gonna lie when you start realizing that some of the things that you do are just innately you, you learn to accept yourself and appreciate yourself and love yourself for who you are, because this is like, truly who you are. So self love is really, really important and this whole entire eight years ever since I discovered astrology has been truly about self love and coming back home to myself, learning about myself and just really really getting to the core of who I am. That isn't being impacted by other people.
Tia Wolfe:So, speaking of which, going back to the human design chart, now that I understand my projector energy and especially my five line, I finally understand why I trigger people. I understand why, growing up, I've had a lot of relations with people where it's a love hate relationship. I understand my impact with other people. So now I finally understand how much boundaries are needed in my life. I just wanna say it's not just for me Boundaries should be asserted for everyone, regardless of who you are, because without boundaries, you truly lose yourself. And I've gone through my entire life people pleasing, and I didn't start out that way. I grew up that way because of the environment around me and because I had no boundaries because I cared so much because I was being affected by everybody around me. I just allowed it to happen and in the process, I completely lost myself, which is really how I was so desperate to find anything to help me understand who I am, and that's how I discovered astrology.
Tia Wolfe:Astrology isn't the only thing that I discovered back in 2016, but it has been the most impactful, so I just wanna let you guys know that I've also dived into psychology. Child psychology is another thing. The way our brains work, biology, you name it. I've even gone into religion, you name it.
Tia Wolfe:So, pretty much where I was at was that I've met some really, really amazing woman this year who have been super, super, super supportive of me, and these women are divine feminine. I call them because they truly, truly embody their feminine energy, and I've never met people like that in my entire life. So for them to be super, super supportive of me, I am, like truly, truly, truly grateful, because I never knew that I was missing so much support, like I always knew that I didn't have the support that I was looking for, but I never understood what it felt like to truly have a woman who fully embodied their feminine energy and just make me feel safe in an emotional way that allowed me to open up and be vulnerable and be seen and just truly heal, like it was so healing. And I didn't even know that was what I needed, because my mother couldn't give me that and I didn't really have a lot of female friends growing up and the ones that I did eventually would fall out of my life. So I am very grateful that I am at this point of my life where I have really healthy friendships with the women in my life.
Tia Wolfe:So, that being said, the next point I want to make is that, because of this emotional support and feeling safe and being able to be vulnerable, I've started to learn to speak up for myself. So a lot of times, people see me as a very confident person and I can speak up about a lot of things and I am more than ready to fight for the people I care about. But I don't usually speak up for myself. Part of it is again from my childhood wounds, where I just didn't feel safe to speak up and every time I would say anything, I would just be attacked for my thoughts, my viewpoints, and it's to the point where I just knew whatever I was going to say was going to end up being a fight and I just didn't want to deal with it anymore. So because of that, I've learned to shut down and not speak up for myself, but I would be able to speak up for other people.
Tia Wolfe:I just wasn't ever able to speak up for myself, and so this year has been really uncomfortable in the sense of life has pushed me to a point where, if I didn't speak up, I was starting to get sick, I would have a sore throat or I would feel the pressure where it's on my body and I'm just torn between so many different places. Because I said that I'll do something, and I'm a very big person on follow through is one of my values in life. So when I had to speak up, that I couldn't do certain things anymore, or I just didn't like how somebody was speaking to me or just the things that I used to brush under the rug. Life has forced me to have to speak up and it's really, really, really uncomfortable, because I know for some it's like easy, like you set boundaries, it's simple, you just let people know that you don't like this one thing. Simple, right.
Tia Wolfe:But for me, I feel so guilty whenever I speak up. I feel so guilty when I have a voice for myself, which is ridiculous, I know, but that was just a wound within me that I just couldn't speak up for myself because I was so afraid of what they would say, because my body remembers how destructive it was every time I spoke up, how much that, no matter what I said, it didn't matter and people would just toss it away and ignore me and continue to walk all over me. It's those things that really makes a person develop these patterns of just protection, because when you don't feel safe to express yourself, and again, it's like a repetitive motion over time. That's what you know. So when people get defensive, it's not that they want to be defensive, but their bodies just immediately get defensive because there's something that's triggered in their mind from childhood or maybe their younger years, through school, through the people they've interacted with, that made them feel unsafe. So they just get defensive.
Tia Wolfe:For me, I would always try to neutralize the situation and when I even hear the slightest bit of arguing or just banter back and forth not lighthearted banter, but serious banter or debates I want nothing to do with it. I literally just apologize. And even if I don't feel like I need to apologize or that I see that what I said was wrong, I would just apologize, just so the situation would be over. And that wasn't healthy for me and I didn't realize how much it affected my body until this year, because I noticed how my body shrank when I apologized for something I didn't actually mean to apologize for, but just to settle down the situation so that I don't have to deal with the arguing, the fighting, the energy that gets sent towards me, because I'm very sensitive to the energy that I pick up. So, especially when it's like a negative feeling, like sadness or anger, I just completely shut down. So learning to speak up this year has been a huge challenge and it's only the beginning for me.
Tia Wolfe:I have to say that again, I am grateful to know that the people in my life now make me feel safe enough for me to speak up, but there is still a lot of resistance from my body. That's just kind of like yeah, I rather not. But I know that this is part of what I need to do for myself to heal, because I know that my voice has power and when I don't speak up, you never know that something that I could say could really change somebody's life. But because I'm just so terrified of having some form of argument or like worried that they will react in a negative way that I don't speak up, they may never learn something that I may have pointed out, because I do realize that with triggers, right, I mean I don't know about other people, but I know that for me I never say anything to hurt people.
Tia Wolfe:But sometimes the way I say things are not the most nice to hear and it's not intentional. Right, to me it made sense in my head and I've already calculated how it could sound, and to me I couldn't see it as hurtful or painful to hear, so I would say it. But not everybody interprets the things that I do the same way and it's really hard for me to really understand. Right, I can try and read people, but when you're just always overly considerate of other people at the expense of yourself, it starts to weigh on you. So, when it comes to triggers, I've had people trigger me, but I would never react because I understand why I'm triggered and I'm not saying, like other people don't. Some people do and choose not to make changes. Other people genuinely don't, and even if I brought it up, they won't realize it, because sometimes we have to go through our own self-awareness, self-growth for us to really understand what are the underlying root of our triggers.
Tia Wolfe:But anyways, the next thing and I know this should be obvious right, but spending more time being happy, focus on happiness, and I don't mean like a selfishly even though it's okay to be a little bit selfish because you have to take care of yourself but making sure that I'm spending more time on things that light me up, make me feel happy, give me energy to continue going, feeling sparked and inspired. These are all things that I need and I truly believe everybody need in their life. I need to know that the people around me are appreciative of just who I am, because everybody's different, so, like everybody's dynamic and what they bring to the relation with you is so valuable, so important, and if you're surrounding yourself with terrible people who are just dragging you down or don't want the best for you, you need to get rid of those kind of people, because they're not going to be celebrating when you're succeeding in life. They're going to resent you, they're going to be jealous of you, they're gonna be envious of you all the things that you do not want in your life. So if you don't make these changes, especially if you want something for your life that other people don't necessarily want for you and it's something that will project you towards Betterment of yourself, success, whatever it is that will allow you to, like, achieve your goals, you need to get rid of those people, because I didn't understand how much the people around me used to weigh me down and I'm not saying that like I didn't have my own baggage. Everybody has their own baggage because we are all growing up, figuring things out, and we screw up and we're just trying to figure out life. So the people around you you might outgrow, especially if you are working on yourself, you're healing, you're trying to propel yourself forward. You're going to end up outgrowing the people around you if they're not on the same journey and that's normal and it sucks, but it's okay, because you're going to find new people who are your people, that are going to be aligned with you, so Making sure that the people around you are secure. They're all here to celebrate your wins. They're proud of you when you do something good and Really try to stray you the right way when you do something bad or make a bad choice. These are the people you have to have in your life, the people that will light you up, because we're not here forever. You don't have to subject yourself to suffering.
Tia Wolfe:I Wanted to be there for the people that I thought cared about me, but when things went wrong, a lot of people left my life because, instead of giving me the support that I thought they were going to give me, they were Judgmental, they were criticizing me, they were just all things and not what I expected. And you know it hurt for a long time having to let go of a lot of these people, but now that I look back at it, I'm so thankful that it happened. I'm so thankful that the universe took away these people, because these were not the people that I wanted in my life, especially because I put in so much effort and time to the people I care about and Always trying to do my best to help them whenever they need help. The people that are just waiting for my demise. I'm so glad, like that's. All I have to say is that I'm so glad the universe took them away.
Tia Wolfe:And Again, if this is triggering you, then you have to look within yourself as to why this is a trigger, because If you're feeling like this is triggering you because you're one of those people who don't want the best for your friends, you should probably look at yourself, and I'm calling you out. I just feel like everybody in this world Should do some form of good and even if you're not going to impact everybody in this life, you still have an impact to the people around you. And if you're just going to be selfish and Only want what's best for yourself, especially if it's at the expense of the people around you, you should probably look at yourself and rethink this, because it's not going to benefit you in the long run when you have nobody on your side. When things get rough. Yes, you can do it on your own, but do you have to? Do you really want to? Because it's a really lonely ride, and I've been there, and it's not on choice. It just happened because I realized that there was nobody there, so I had to do everything on my own. I had to figure out everything on my own, but it sucked, because if I had the right people around me, I could have done all of the things that I wanted to do, achieved and and get to a lot quicker. So For those who needed to hear this I don't know who, but make sure that you really look at yourself, because when you hear other people triggering you, it's not about them, it's about you, and that's hard to hear, but that's really what it is.
Tia Wolfe:So I'm going to talk a little bit about relationships, a little bit of what I've learned this year, and I've learned that there are still things that I'm working on that Really has a negative impact on the relationships, the romantic relationships, in my life, and I do truly believe that you attract the people who are like you. So wherever you are in your energy field, you are attracting those type of people, and I couldn't understand why, for the longest time, all of my relationships were, I'd say, not healthy, and I did a lot of reviewing in my relationships this year and I realized that I also have unhealthy habits, and that's not to say I never thought that I did and that I'm this perfect person, because I'm not, but I always strive to really do the most in my relationships. I always try to utilize all of the information I've learned in my life in terms of relationships and like try to be as healthy as I can be as a person to my partners. But there were certain things that still didn't add up, why I was still attracting toxic relationships, not just with friends but like with relationships. So I'm not going to get into that today, but it just really made me realize that A lot of the childhood trauma that I had is still being played over into my relationships and I had to look at myself. You know, at the end of the day I realized that when you have a lot of self-love for yourself and you continue to work on yourself, over time your energies rise. But still, if you haven't let go of the things that are in your past that's holding you back, especially of your body remembers, and you haven't found a way to deal with that or even recognize that, you'll have to deal with it. It's still in your energy field and so you're going to still be attracting people in your life that represent some form of that.
Tia Wolfe:And again, learning about my projector energy has made me realize that I don't have to try so hard in my relationships, because what's for me will be for me and what's not for me, no matter how hard I work on something, no matter how hard I try, it's just not meant for me, so it's going to not work at the end of the day. And that was something I had to really accept in my life, because the whole society thing about you go after what you want, take accountability for your actions. If you have a goal, you can't just sit back and do nothing. I followed all of that and, yeah, it worked, but it was really expensive, let's just say that, and I don't mean in a monetary way. It was very expensive in terms of my energy field, because I was operating against what my body is made to do, and this is why I emphasize about human design and astrology a lot, because once you understand how you are created and why you're here and who you are, you no longer start doing the things.
Tia Wolfe:That doesn't make sense to you, because not everybody is created to be the same and, honestly, everybody is different. So just because something works for you doesn't work for the other person. Just because something works for you, it doesn't mean that it works for the next person, and just because it works for all these people, it doesn't mean it's made for you. And that's something I've been relearning and reconditioning in my own life is that I'll listen to the advice. I'll take a lot of people's guide and I have to sit with it and I have to see how it gets implemented into my life, if it even does, because if it doesn't make sense, I'm no longer going to try and force it into my life because that's their success story. It doesn't mean it's my success story, and when I'm operating from a place that isn't aligned to me, I'm never going to be able to achieve what is meant for me, because we all have a destination.
Tia Wolfe:I truly believe, and everybody's destination is different, and it's not a comparison, it's not a I'm going to succeed at the compensation of you or anything like that. There is more than enough abundance in this world for everybody. So it's not a comparison, it's not a competition, but just understanding these traits of mine that I learned from childhood has shown me why I've continued to attract similar types of people with similar behaviors, and a lot of it again comes back to me. One of the things that people point out in my relationships is that I have men who are never available. Okay, and well, the reality is I'm also not that available, and for people who don't want to admit that they're wrong, it's really hard to admit this.
Tia Wolfe:But for me, the way I grew up, I always thought I was always a problem. Even when I'm not, I would find a way to think I'm the problem. So I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong or that I'm the problem. And if you want to demonize me, whatever that's on you. But it takes a lot to have this kind of self-awareness so that you don't repeat the same problem, the same story, again and again, just with different people at a different time. And unless that's what you want in your life, I suggest reflecting on yourself, because reflection really shows you so much about you, about the people around you and just about life. And this is really in terms of Sagittarius, energy, learning more understanding from a higher perspective. Looking at your value systems, your belief systems are they still intact? Is this something that you want to continue going forward in life, because it does affect how you continue to live your life. So these are all valuable things that you need to look at and think about.
Tia Wolfe:Anyways, I didn't realize how long this has gotten, so I'm really going to cut this short, but something else I've done is being vulnerable, opening my heart. I've always had my walls up and again. This also leads to one of the reasons why I struggle with my relationships is that when you get hurt enough, you start walling up. You don't realize it, but it happens over time. So being vulnerable, not being afraid to get hurt, is part of experiencing what it is about relationships. And there's a beauty of it all, because if it doesn't work, it just meant that it wasn't for you, but you've learned something else, and that is what you like and what you don't like. So it's really important just to experience, and nothing is a failure, nothing is a wasted time, because everything is a reflection of you, everything is a mirror and you learn through yourself, through other people, watching other people, hearing other people's stories. It's never going to be a waste of time, all right.
Tia Wolfe:So obviously I've told you guys that I have incorporated astrology, human design and my spirituality into my work, and this has been a big deal, because I've been in the closet about this for the past eight years and throughout time I've slowly opened up to some of my friends about this. So not all of my friends know about it, but now they do, because the new friends in my life are all spiritual and do believe in astrology and human design. That being said, I have finally accepted that I'm a very intuitive person. I always thought that whatever it is that's coming through my mind that I'm channeling, I just thought it was just a bunch of information that is being pulled out of my ass. I never knew whether it resonated with people or not, but I finally got the confirmation this year from multiple people that everything I'm channeling is spot on and that is exactly what they needed to hear.
Tia Wolfe:Over time, I've started to trust my intuition, and it's still a work in progress, because it's really hard, when you've always been a logical person, that trusting your intuition isn't always the easiest thing, especially if there's no physical proof of it. You're just kind of having blind faith. So this has been a monumental thing for me not only just coming out, but coming out in terms of spirituality and what I believe in, but also accepting this part of me as who I am, because I always felt that if I was to share this part of me, it would just be rejected. So to my last point the biggest, biggest, biggest thing that I have, in my eyes, accomplished and worked through in this year is that I no longer feel the way I used to feel towards my mother.
Tia Wolfe:I used to have a lot of resentment towards her. I used to feel like she could do better, that she could always do better, and there should be no excuses as to why she can't do this, she can't do that. Besides the fact that she would just make a bunch of excuses, I hated the fact that she was never a mother to me and that I had to grow up mothering myself as well as her, and I just didn't have my childhood. And my friends who grew up with me, who know about this, do remember every time that I check my phone and I see a missed call or the call is still happening and I've already had 10, 20, 30 missed calls the dread in my voice, the anxiety that comes up. Just seeing it, you know, looking at it now, it's amazing how far I've come.
Tia Wolfe:And one of the words that I've seen a lot and people have told me a lot this year is giving myself grace. I have to say I'm so grateful and thankful to be where I am today, because seeing my mother's name pop up on my phone no longer triggered me. I could just see it and be like alright, if I'm busy I won't answer. If I'm not in the right mindset, I won't answer. She still is her. Nothing has changed about her. It's just the way I'm perceiving it. It's just the way I'm handling it. It's come a long, long, long way.
Tia Wolfe:That is my biggest accomplishment that I honestly never thought I would ever get to in my life. I truly always believed that I would forever feel this anxiety and stress every time I see her call me, every time I see like 50 missed calls because, yes, she has blown up my phone throughout my life and I know for most people this would give anybody anxiety. So to say that I've come a long way is an understatement. But I am here and honestly, I don't really know what shifted. I just know that I've worked a lot on myself this year. I've reflected a lot on myself this year and I've dived more into my feminine energy this year.
Tia Wolfe:So there could be a lot of different things that's happening, but I'm just so happy to be where I am today in regards to her, and again, nothing has changed on her end.
Tia Wolfe:She's still the same person she is with the way she handles things when it comes to me. So it's really really about mindset, and I can't emphasize it enough. Mindset really makes or breaks you, and I've always tried my best to understand and do the most and just find a way to find peace with her, and it never worked. And again, I don't know what has changed for me to get to where I am today, but I'm so glad, so I am so glad that for those who actually tuned in and listened to the whole thing, I am so thankful to you and I wish you guys the best because really, once 2024 comes and the next couple years, there's going to be a lot of changes collectively, subconsciously, unconsciously, and this is a time where, if you don't know yourself, you got to start, because it's going to start getting harder on you and you're going to definitely feel the pressure You're going to have to face your truth. So that's it for today. Thank you so much for listening and watching. I will catch you next time.